When it comes to sugar dating, wrong expectations are the thing that can spoil everything for a new sugar daddy or sugar baby. Wrong expectations can (and in most cases, will) lead to disappointment, misunderstanding, lost time, and lost money. Here, we’ll tell you everything about sugar daddy expectations.
The first question lots of new sugar babies have about sugar dating is: is physical intimacy a must?
Let’s take off the blinders right away: yes, it’s always about sex. The very first thing to understand before entering the sugar dating world is: it’s basically exchanging sex for money. Sugar dating gurus do their best juggling with words to blur the real meaning of “sugar dating” and talking about sugar daddies who don’t demand sex but only want to help you pay your student debt, but in reality, intimacy is a must in the absolute majority of cases.
The only common exception is the first date. We’ll talk about it later in more detail, but sugar daddies often want to have a no-sex first date to understand if there’s chemistry with a potential sugar daddy. Other than that, it’s always about intimacy—no matter what TikTok and Youtube tell you. Now, let’s talk about other sugar daddy relationship expectations.
In most cases, when sugar babies and sugar daddies say the word “expectations”, it’s about the expectations about allowance (the money a SD will pay to a SB). Here’s what you need to know about it: the average monthly allowance of a sugar baby is $2,800, but various gifts, tickets, hotel rooms, and flowers are not included. In most cases, an average SD expects to spend about $3,000 per month on his SB.
It’s very important to discuss allowances before meeting up because both you and your sugar partner need to understand what each of you wants and if you’re ok with that. If it’s your first date, it’s recommended to start with Pay Per Date—typically, sugar babies get about $300-$600 per 1 meeting and it’s generally a good start.
As for the sugar daddy expectations from a SB, here’s the thing: sugar daddies want different things when it comes to details… But in general, they all want the same. They want a young, beautiful, and intelligent woman who will be a great companion, a sex partner, and an emotional comforter. However, it’s always more than just being beautiful, young, and intelligent—it’s also about chemistry and that feeling of “we click”. Obviously, it’s impossible to understand if this person is the right person for sugar dating without meeting—so let’s talk about the first date. More specifically, let’s talk about what to expect about your first sugar daddy date.
As we’ve said, most first dates are platonic, and it’s recommended to not get intimate before discussing the allowance. The short, platonic first dates in public are usually called “meet and greet”, and only after that, it’ll include money and sex.
Obviously, platonic dates are usually compensated at a lesser amount than “normal” dates. In general, sugar daddies expect to feel sugar baby out in person on the first, platonic date, but it’s not that rare for sugar daddies to expect sex on the first date—so it’s highly recommended to discuss it in advance in order to avoid misunderstanding. Obviously, it’s always a sugar daddy who pays for the dinner, even if it’s the very first M&G.
So, what to expect from a sugar daddy relationship? Let’s make it clear one more time: sugar dating is very often always about sex; sugar daddies are almost always searching for a beautiful, young, and intelligent woman; expectations must be discussed and agreed upon in advance; the first date is typically platonic (but this should be discussed, too). Understanding this will protect both a sugar daddy and a sugar baby from having wrong expectations and from wasting time.
